Dear Panel,

I don't know if my boyfriend loves me anymore. I am away at the moment and when I call I can hear his brother ask him if he wants to talk to me. Here's the weird part, he says "NO".

Why is he avoiding me?

– Confused

Female, age 22, North Dakota

Maybe you always call when he's on the john, or maybe he wants to break up. Does he ever call you?

Because your suspicions are correct. He doesn't love you anymore. Sorry.

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Dear Panel,

How do I tell my girlfriend she is fat?

– Concerned

Male, age 33, USA

Tell her that your question was published on Love & Learn this week.

SEVERAL ANSWERS:

1. If you want her to remain your girlfriend, you don't.
2. Softly, while she sleeps.
3. In a letter, with an expenses-paid ticket to a spa.
4. 10 years after you've broken up with her because she's too good for you.
5. In Swahili.
6. Right after you've had your own glass house cleaned and polished.

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Dear Panel,

I think my boyfriend is "tired of me." How do I know if this relationship is going anywhere or if we'll be wondering about each other for the rest of the time?

– Adrion

Female, age 14, USA

Well if he's 14 and you're 14 and you've been going out for longer than 2 weeks, he's probably tired of you.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. He is still not ready to propose. I am 23 and he is 24.

How do I get him to propose? I really want to get married within the next 2 years.

Female, age 23, USA

Tell him if he doesn't commit in the next month, you're ending the relationship so you can find someone who's ready to get married. Then do what you say.

You can't get him to propose. Giving him some space will result in him proposing earlier!

Lay out your timetable, and insist that he proposes. That gets 'em
hooked every time.

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Dear Panel,

I like this guy, and I am sure that he likes me too. He tried to kiss me but I didn't let him. This is because some of my friends told me that he takes drugs.

By the way, I am an A student and he is not the kind of student that really cares if he passes or not. Please help, I don't know what to do!

– Jackie

Female, age 17, USA

If you can't figure out that you don't have to kiss someone if you don't
want to, you're not an A student in life.

Don't judge a book by its cover.

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Dear Panel,

I really like this girl...I mean a lot. She is beautiful and smart, maybe a little out of my league. We are both 16 and she recently broke up with an 18-year-old.

How can I get her to like me? What things can I do, and what things can I say? I'm kinda shy around girls so it's hard.

– Dr. Love

Male, age 16, California

Start practicing with someone who's not quite so beautiful or smart AND in your league.

Hang with her and let her get to know you

I've never heard of a "shy" doctor of love... but it is the new millennium. Why don't you try befriending her you might learn a few things about her, then move from there.

But watch out. Don't become too much of a friend, because she might only see you that way.. "as a friend". Good luck.

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My boyfriend won't talk to me and won't tell me what's wrong. What should I do?

– Need Help

Female, age 12, North Dakota

It sounds to me that he is tired of the relationship and might want to break up. Talk to him even if he won't listen.

Stop thinking of him as your boyfriend, and try to move on to someone who talks.

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Dear Panel,

I am married for past 8 years and I have got a kid of 7. My question is, my wife was so close to me but since of late for past 2 months she is moving away from me. She is working as a clerk in a office.

What will be the reason for her behavior? (She is elder to me by 9 years.)

– Anonymous

Male, age 30, India

The reason is hers. Ask her for it.

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Dear Panel,

How do I get my parents to accept my bad boyfriend gone good?

You see, I am planning on marrying this man one day and I really want my parents to love him the way my boyfriend's parents love me. How can I get them to realize that he has changed for the better?

– Jules

Female, age 17, England

You can't. Parents hate their daughter's boyfriends. It's a universal constant.

Well it depends what "bad" used to be. If he was a rapist murderer, then you might have a bit of a task on your hands! Seriously, though, just talk to your parents and invite your boyfriend over for a meal and chat.

If your boyfriend really has gone good, then you will have faith in him being able to show this to your parents for himself.

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Dear Panel,

The boy I'm in love with is the nephew of my ex- boyfriend! Is it possible to have a relationship?

– Monica

Female, age 22, Belgium

You're in love with your NEPHEW?! Oh wait, sorry...sure, go ahead.

Would you want your ex dating your niece?

Anything is possible.

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Dear Panel,

I think this is a very nice and educative place to come when one is confused.

What do you think of falling in love with an unhappy marry man father of one, known over the internet that you have never met, and wanting to loose your virginity with him, even though he doesn't know you are one.

Another question, if you have used a tampon are you still a virgin?

– Confused

Female, age 22, Australia

Thank goodness we're educational to someone.

1. I think you'd be as big a loser as he.
2. I've used a tampon for cleaning up a spill once and it did not affect my virginity.

Thanks for the compliment. Now, to your questions. You are a virgin until you have intercourse with someone (not a tampon) who penetrates you.

And, you would be nuts to fall in love with a married man, particularly one you "know" only over the internet. Please find a single, available, real man. Relationships are hard enough without all the crap you're potentially dumping on yourself.

If you don't know the answer to your last question you definitely aren't ready for sex. Oh, yeah, and definitely not with this guy.

Please find an educated adult to tell you about the BIRDS & the BEES - NOW!!!

That situation sounds as much fun as playing with a hand grenade

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Dear Panel,

There is this girl on my street who is staring at me all the time. Even out her window. Sometimes she will walk by me two or three times a day.

When I go past her house she is always hiding. Is that a sign that she is interested in me? I find her rather interesting myself.

– Jeffrey

Male, age 15, North America

It could be. The trick is to get to a point where you can talk to her and find out. Perhaps you can ring the doorbell and offer to do the family's yard work?

Yeah, she's interested in you. Either that or you have something
perpetually stuck between your teeth

I think she likes you just a "little" bit. Get over there, now, and do
something!

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Dear Panel,

It seems to me that most people think that people with red hair and freckles are either weird or ugly. It seems that they get ignored a lot and don't have a lot of girl or boy friends.

What are your feelings on red headed freckle faces? What do they do to meet a boy or girl?

– Just Wondering

Male, age 27, Australia

There must be some kind of singles weird red-headed freckle face meet place on the net. Look for it.

I personally like the looks of red hair and freckles. I also think most mature people take into account the whole person and not just the face. Red haired people meet boys and girls the same way anybody else does.

Good observation. There's actually an underground networking service in place for redheads. Most friends are set up through an agency, and significant others are contracted out, with renewal options offered every three months for the first year, and every six months after that.

Hope that clears up the mystery.

Not sure what you're talking about. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are redheads.

Sorry, that's the last question.

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