Snappy Answers Week of June 10, 2002

Week of June 10, 2002: Here are short answers to 12 of the questions that we found in our mail box.

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Dear Panel, Why, after a 15 year, heterosexual, monogamous relationship, is my wife disgusted by semen? It has really become a limiting factor in our dwindling sex life. – Troubled On The Island Male, age 39, New York
	She was always disgusted. Now she can tell you.
	Maybe she was pretending to like it for 15 years.
	Have you asked her? It's said that semen smells like whatever you've been eating... what have you been eating? Turnabout is fair play. Focus on giving and perhaps ye shall once again receive.
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Dear Panel, I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 18. I just found out he lied. He's 22, married and has a baby with a girl who just turned 18. Me and him have been having sex for 4 months. I want him in jail for lying! I gave him my virginity and he trampled all over it. He said he'd break up with me if I didn't. That was 5 months before I found out the truth. I really want him locked up. – HrtBrkn Female, age 15, USA
	You've got way more problems then getting this loser in jail. Before concentrating on him anymore, try figuring out why you stayed with such a loser. And please don't get pregnant.
	Whoa! Hell hath no fury... No one will put him in jail for lying. They will, however, make his life miserable for statutory rape. Charging him with rape will be no fun for you or him. Think hard before you do that.
	Many of our readers complain that statutory rape laws make no sense, that a young woman is capable of giving consent. Your story seems to prove the opposite: you were too young and clueless to give consent. Now you can use the statutory rape laws against him.
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Dear Panel, I have written two questions and you have not answered either one. – Hope Female, age 18, USA
	Sorry.
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Dear Panel, I am a 19-year-old boy who fell in love with a girl who studies in my school. In the beginning everything was going good. I flirted with her and she showed great interest in me. All of a sudden a week ago she stopped paying me a lot of attention and she ceased speaking with me, despite all my efforts to talk to her. But on the contrary every time she sees me she waves me very cordially and looks at me with great interest but when I try to approach her she goes in the other direction, pretending not to have any interest in me. What am I to do? Is this a trick, a part of the female concept of love games? Does she want me to pursue her ? Please help me. Thank you in advance. – I.V. Male, age 19, Eastern Europe
	She's playing hard to get. Keep playing until you think she is deliberately wanting you to pursue her.
	She may be playing hard to get. Go get her!
	Oh, those female games. If you want to be a competitor in this game, you probably have to act like you are not interested in playing.
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Dear Panel, I am really into this boy at school. He is so cute but any time I try to talk to him, he always turns away or does not answer. What should I do? – Froggygurl Female, age 13, USA
	Find someone else. He's not worth it!
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Dear Panel, Me and my friend like the same guy, but she has liked him for longer. She wants him to make the first move but he indicates that he doesn't want her like that. Lots of people say that there chemistry between me and him. What should I do? – Faith Female, age 16, London
	Find a chemistry partner who your friend isn't interested in.
	Don't lose a friend over some guy. Try finding her someone first, then go for him.
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Dear Panel, I am in love with this guy name Rickie and he wants to have sex. What should I do? – Anonymous Female, age 16, USA
	Make Rickie prove that he loves you by not wanting sex from you.
	Follow your heart. If that is what you want to do, go for it! (PROTECTED PLEASE!)
	First of all, you probably shouldn't be in love with him. Second of all, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier.
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Dear Panel, There is a girl from school that I really like. In 10th grade I was told she liked me too, but I'm not sure if she still likes me. The prom is coming up. I want to ask her but she doesn't know me that well. But she is a really nice person. I only have 2 days until the money is due so how do I ask her (she is a shy person like me) without scaring her away or thinking I'm being too pushy? Help! This is important. Thanks. – Luis Male, age 17, New Jersey
	From what you have told us -- go for it. You have described no possible negative consequences that are worse than the regret that you will feel if you don't. Please let us know what happens. Good luck!
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Dear Panel, Is it OK for a teacher to date a student? If so, what schools should allow it? What would happen to the teacher-student relationship if they engage in a relationship? – Just Wondering Female, age 17, California
	No. The School of Hard Knocks. There would be no more teachers. They tend to get fired in a situation like this.
	In the UK its illegal. Personally, I think its not good - it places the student and teacher in awkward, biased situations which could disadvantage everyone, including other students.
	It's OK once you graduate.
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Dear Panel, I love this light-skinned girl who has a boyfriend. She takes me for a friend and she doesn't know I love her. She told one of her friends I call her too much. I'm an African who came to America 6 months ago. What should I do? – NGL Male, age 15, USA
	If she said you call her too much, then it's a hint that you should just be friends.
	Use a little common sense. If you believe that she thinks you call her too much, then don't call her so much. And figure on her not loving you back.
	She has a boyfriend. Being friends is good - don't get pushy.
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Dear Panel, A guy took my virginity with a dildo because I was afraid to get pregnant. Afterwards I pleased him although I didn't feel much pleasure at all. Now I am with a new guy and he says he doesn't want to be with a girl who has slept with anyone because he wants to be the first to pleasure his woman that way. I am sure that if we get together we will have sex and he will find out. What do I tell him? – Virgin, But Not Really Female, age 17, Arizona
	Tell him that you want to have sex with someone who isn't as shallow as he is.
	You can only lose your virginity to a person, not a toy.
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Dear Panel, I made love but I don't know what to do. – ? Male, age 18, England
	Make love again, its a free country!
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