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Dear Panel, Should your girlfriend come first--when picking me up for going out to eat--with this other chick which he says their just friends? – Kisma Female, age 19, Texas |
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I know that girls have no sense of geographical convenience or location and I've always wondered why. |
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Dear Panel, If he said that I'm his best friend, does that mean he loves me? – Red Female, age 26, Malaysia |
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That depends. Are you having sex with him? |
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No, that means he is your friend with benefits. |
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Dear Panel, I have been dating a man that sometimes has me raising my eyebrows, and thinking to myself, "is he gay or what?" . I have gay friends, and bisexual friends, and can honestly say they can exhibit certain common behaviors, that are often pretty good indicators of their sexual preferences. This guy has some feminine mannerisms, and seems to have the need to vocalize his heterosexuality when the subject comes up, etc. There is other stuff too, but sometimes I think maybe I am overemphasizing this behaviors. Are there some "really good indicators" you can share as to if someone is gay? – Sara Female, age 22, USA |
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No, unless you caught him in the act or he confesses his identity, only then you'll know. Just trust "your inner self". Women have good intuition. |
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Good indicators: Having sex with you--NOT GAY P.S. As a bisexual woman, I am interested to know what these "mannerisms" are that you speak of! Homophobe? Hmmmm? |
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Usually my gaydar starts beeping. |
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Dear Panel, If you've fallen "out" of love with someone, can you fall back "in" love again? – Arjay Male, age 23, USA |
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Yes, but it's a lot more work climbing uphill with baggage than falling down into something like love.. |
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Dear Panel, How long should you know someone before getting married? – PepperFemale, age 19, USA |
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Much longer than you think you need to. |
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Dear Panel, Can you explain to me what the honeymoon stage is in a dating or marriage relationship? – Luted2004 Female, age 20, Washington |
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The honeymoon stage is when he is really nice to you treats you well then once he has got what he wants, honeymoon is over and you're just someone who he likes a lot. (Just got out of one) |
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Honeymoon stage is in the beginning when you can't get enough of each other (that's why it's sweet)....once you've got your fill - it's marriage... |
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It's when the sex overshadows reality, giving a false sense of bliss/happiness. Once the sex plateaus, reality sets in. |
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It's the brief period in the beginning of the relationship where you still like your partner and try to be on your good behavior. This is the time when couples still dress up for each other, don't pee with the door open and have sex often. People often confuse this with love. This is not the "love" phase this is still the "lust phase". The love phase is when your guy farts, holds your head under the blankets nearly suffocating you, but you sleep with him anyway. |
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It's when people still respect and feel good about each other. |
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Dear Panel, I have been with my girlfriend for two years and we both want to marry each other. Should I go on ahead and just purpose to her? – Sean H. Male, age 28, Florida |
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Maybe you should wait for puberty - I mean maturity - first?!? |
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Not unless you can get married by skipping that step. |
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Dear Panel, The guy I'm seeing says that he's falling for me, but if he had a choice he wouldn't because I'm not perfect (his exact words) and that he doesn't think he'll ever love me. Is this a lost cause? – Rosie Female, age 20, USA |
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Nobody's perfect, but you can decide to be smart...ditch him. |
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Yes, but the bigger question is why would you want to get together with this immature, confused guy? Tell him to get lost. |
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It'll be a lost cause until he suffers his mid-life crisis. But why make yourself crazy over his silliness? |
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Dear Panel, I like this girl but I'm not sure if she likes me. She's 2 years older than me but there's this other girl I know I could get with. Who should I go after? – Dr. B Male, age 18, USA |
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Neither. If you are not sure if one likes you, then she probably doesn't like you that way. And if the only reason you are willing to "hook up" with other one is because you know you can get her... bad. Have a nice day. |
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The one with the most money. |
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Dear Panel, I told a friend that I liked a guy and now she likes him. It bothers me! I don't want to be petty cause I am 25 but I almost feel a little betrayed! How should I handle the situation? Am I wrong to feel this way? I guess I am just used to things not working out for me! – Confused Female, age 25, Connecticut |
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Tell her that you like someone else now. |
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Two words: CAGE MATCH! Just kidding...I say shut your trap and find a new guy. |
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What is the problem? Go for it anyway. |
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Tell the guy that you like him, and see if you can work that out with him, not with your girlfriend. |
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Dear Panel, I have a female friend and that is all she wants to be, but I like her a lot and I want to be more. Should I settle for being friends, or should I go after a relationship? – Azambog Male, age 15 |
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Tell her how you feel and try not to pressure her. If she still wants you to be her friend, respect her decision. |
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Go for relationship, it will haunt you if you don't. |
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You have to do what she wants. |
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Dear Panel, I really like this guy. He is the one I have dreamed about all my life. I have got to have him. The problem is, he has a girlfriend he doesn't like. But he's scared to break up with her because she is crazy. How can I show him I like him, that he can do better, and help him lose her? Please help, I'm desperate. – Melissa Female, age 21, Florida |
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Just be true to him, and let him do the rest. Let him be the one to finish the relationship he started. |
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Why not show him that you're crazier than his girlfriend if he likes the crazy ones so much. |
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Why would you want a guy that can't stand up for himself? Oops - I forgot - you're desperate. |
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Dear Panel, I have been with this guy that says he is a virgin but the other day I talked to his ex that said they had sex like 2 times. I confronted him and he said it never happened. I love him but I don't know if he lying. – Confused Female, age 18, USA |
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Every man I've ever been with has lied about his virginity in some way. Men just do that sort of thing. |
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Maybe sex is a very forgetful event for him. |
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Dear Panel, What do I do if I like a guy and he says he doesn't like me, but he sure does act like he does? – C.J. Female, age 14, USA |
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Nothing. |
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He's a player or is just messing with you. |
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Dear Panel, Can you date someone younger than you, if I'm 17 and he is 15? – Dana Female, age 15, San Angelo |
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I could date someone younger than ME, even if YOU weren't 17. |
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Sure you can. He just can't drive when you go out. |
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Sure. Go for it. |
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Dear Panel, I'm 23 and he's 38. We have a terrific relationship and love spending time together. I would love to be with this person the rest of my life. I do have a drinking problem and I'm to the point I may think that I'm a alcoholic. He is very supportive of me and would do anything to help, but I'm in denial most of the time. I like hanging out with my friends by myself and that way I can get wasted, but then the following day I'm too hung over to hang out with my lover. Then he gets upset with me and get upset because I let him down and feel like crap. Do I break up with him so I can hang with my friends more and do things that I may miss out on as a young adult? – J.S. Female, age 23, USA |
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If you don't straighten out your drinking problem, you will miss out on being a young adult and living long enough to ever be an older adult. Grow up, get help for your drinking. You'll find that life is actually better when you're not wasted. Or dead. |
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Break up with him AND slow down with the drinking! |
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Go quickly to Alcoholics Anonymous. Then, work out your relationship problems when sober. |
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Dear Panel, I'm 16, he is 27. Should I tell him how I feel? – Lovestuck Female, age 16, UK |
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That depends. How do you feel? |
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Dear Panel, I need to know some pros and cons for statutory rape. – Samantha Female, age 14, Michigan |
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A Pro? How about free rent and food for a long time? |
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There's a lot of cons who have participated and you can visit them in prison. |
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Dear Panel, How can I make kissing more fun? – Pat The Bed Male, age 18, USA |
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More fun than what? |
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By not kissing so often. |
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A little tongue can go a looong way. |
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You need to actually LIKE the person you are kissing. |
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Sorry, that's the last question. Read the 20 Snappy Answers again
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