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Dear Panel,

I am really good friends with a guy at my school, the only problem is he has a girlfriend who goes to a different school a plane ride away.

We do everything together and are great friends, and there is also physical attraction. He's never said anything nice about his girlfriend, and they don't seem to be very happy together.

But they don't show any signs of breaking up.

I know they have a long history together, and that they both went through a traumatic event together. Is this what is keeping them together?

I want more out of the relationship than is possible by just being friends, like we are now. I've known him for a few months now.

What should I do?

- Susie

Female, age 18, USA

Start going out with another guy, and then trash talk him with this guy. Maybe he'll appreciate you more then.

He never says anything nice about his girlfriend, isn't happy with her, she's long distance, AND he is dallying with a female on the side.

Just what WOULD you consider a sign of an impending break-up?

Why would you want to be with a guy who does not speak kindly of his girlfriends?

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Dear Panel,

My girlfriend and I are both really defensive people who joke around too much. When we get together we joke around and then get defensive because we take each other way too seriously.

What can we do to stop this cycle? It's hurting our relationship. We both really love and care about each other and don't want to hurt the other person.

- Shaggy

Male, age 19, North Carolina

There's a time and a place for joking around. Maybe you two haven't found it yet?

Defensive people shouldn't joke around.

"Joking" is usually a way to express what you're really feeling.

Except when I do it.

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Dear Panel,

What should I do...

I was over at my ex-boyfriend's house. We have remained friends since October and still do stuff together.

Well, on Monday night, I was there and things lead to things and well, we almost ended up having sex until I told him "NO" because we weren't going out.

I then found out last night that he told his cousin whom I am very close with that he doesn't even like me and is only trying to get a piece.

What should i do?

- ShortAngel, age 15, USA

Guys tell guys lies all the time to avoid looking sensitive and wimpy.

Then again, he could be insensitive.

You should figure out why you don't immediately know to stay the heck away from this loser.

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Dear Panel,

I broke up with this guy two years ago and I have loved him ever since... the problem is that I also dated his best friend... should I ask him out again???

- Lost

Female, age 18, Australia

Ask who out, the guy or the best friend?

Lets make this simple: Sure, why not?

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Dear Panel,

Is it wrong for me to see a man that is 18 years older than me, but who was married through civil law got divorced and is still married through religous laws?

- Gomez

Female, age 18, USA

Is it your religion?

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Dear Panel,

I have been involved in a long distance relationship for 18 months. We actually see each other about once a month.

Is it too soon for me to push the question of where do we stand? Such as: "Are we an exclusive couple?" or better yet "do you love me?"

- Maggie

Female, USA

Too late!!! Never ask someone if they love you. If you have to ask, the answer is "NO."

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend of almost two months is sending me mixed signals. He barely pays any attention to me at all around his buddies which I'm okay with. But he rarely ever calls on his own without just calling me back. He says he's just shy but what do I do? I really like him but is he even the slightest into me?

P.S. He claims he hasn't been up to going out cause he's been a little depressed. He never acts like it except around me. Am I a loser? Should I believe him?

- Frustrated

Female, age 16, USA

You'll only be a loser if you believe these lame excuses.

Guys call girls.

Really.

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Dear Panel,

I have a problem. About a month ago, I finally told my mom about how my boyfriend hit me, because I was really hurt. But now, I want to be back with him, but she doesn't want to accept that.

How can I go about having her accept him again? AND PLEASE, I JUST NEED THAT ONE QUESTION ANSWERED, I DON'T NEED ADVICE SAYING "SHE'S RIGHT, HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU...."

Please help me.

- Jessica

Female, age 17, USA

Sorry Jessica, you either "don't need advice saying 'she's right'", or you want us to "help you". You can't have both.

Okay. You already know your mom is right, he doesn't love you.

The help you need is not to figure out how to get your mother to accept someone who assaults her daughter, but for you to value yourself enough to walk away from ANYONE who would hit you.

If your mother's opinion is that important to you, try listening to it.
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Tell your mom that you don't mind being treated like a punching toy, because you need to feel emotionally dependent on SOMEONE once you
move out of her house.
– bubba

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Dear Panel,

Hey I would like to say that I have a boyfriend and I known him for about 5 years and I don't know if I really love him.

Thanks

- Moriah

Female, age 17, USA

I'm pretty sure you have a question burning to get out, but if you can't voice it even to us, you haven't got much chance with your boyfriend.

Thanks for sharing. Buh bye.

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Sorry, that's the last question.