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Dear Idiot,
Ahhh the feeling of being in love and wondering if it will last
forever. I've been there and felt the same way about my boyfriend
(well technically ex boyfriend but that's a different story).
I'm going to start things out with the top of your letter and comment
down the line. You talk about how you met him--ok, well not everyone
has the greatest of ways of meeting. The main point here is that
you met and you're together NOW unless you are still feeling some
feelings you were that night. Like do you still feel that there
is no challenge? Does that bother you in any way? You might want
to take that into consideration.
It's a good sign that you both have the same sense of humor and
that you can have a great time together. Haha...I used to have the
same "cool girlfriend" label with my boyfriend and that's
always an extra plus to be tight with his friends. Things are also
going great if he's willing to stay an extra year just to be with
you.
These Insecurities Are COMPLETELY Normal
Now onto your actual questions. You start by saying that you want
to be with him forever but you have insecurities. In response I
would have to say that it is COMPLETELY normal to feel like that.
I felt like a train wreck wondering if it would all work out to
be a happily every after.
Communicate How You Feel
Does he know about your feelings? Your insecurities? I'm a huge
advocate of saying that communication is the number one most important
thing ever. My advice is to sit down with him one day when the two
of you aren't busy and talk to him about it.
Tell him that you're worried and ask him if thinks you are being
assertive and too demanding. I'm willing to bet that he has some
insecurities of his own that he might be willing to share since
you opened up to him.
Enjoy The Present
As far as you not wanting to mess things up--no one does. Talking
and listening can be a great way to help that never happen. As far
as being with him forever, just take it one day at a time. Forever
will just fall into place. For now enjoy the present time and be
thankful for everything that has happened.
Let's Talk About Men, Not Boys
To answer your question "Can boys really stay with one person
forever?" Well yes BOYS can--with their mother. You want to
find that one MAN who wants to be with you and only you forever
because there is no one else in the world that could make him happy.
That's who you want to find and live happily ever after with.
Right now it is tough since you are young but if you take it slow
and one day at a time and not worry TOO much about the future it
can work out.
Good luck and don't forget to tell him how much you love him.
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