Dear Michael,

Who decided to get married in the first place? Are you going to keep basing all your decisions in life on what other people do?

You Have To Make A Decision

If your marriage isn't working out it is YOUR responsibility to make a decision about what to do.

You can't just string your wife along as a back up plan in case your thing with your mistress doesn't work out.

Grow Up

He's married! Isn't it obvious that he has to return to his spouse?

Be an adult, be honorable, and make a decision on your own about your marriage.

Stop Seeing Your Mistress

And leave this person alone until you have decided to leave your marriage, unless you decide to fix your marriage, in which case you need to leave her alone forever.

You Are Sending Mixed Messages

Yes. It's beacuse he's afraid of being alone.

By the way, you are sending mixed messages yourself. You basically are saying "I'll do it if you do" without committing to one relationship or another.

– Judith