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Deat Untrusting,
I understand how you've got into this relationship with this guy,
because I have done a similar thing myself. For now, I need you
to understand a few things.
First of all, your parents and your friend have advised you that
this guy is not good for you. They tell you this simply because
they believe it is true. They love you, and care about you, and
they don't want to see you get hurt. They can see it from an 'outside'
point of view, because they see that he has cheated on and hurt
other people in the past, and they can't see a reason why he wouldn't
so the same to you.
He Doesn't Deserve A Second Chance
The fact that you are with him at all is allowing him to continue
with whatever bad behaviour he has been forgiven for in the past.
I believe that everyone deserves a second chance, but when you told
me about his ex-girlfriend, his son, the fact that he told your
friend he was attracted to her, I got the feeling that this was
a pattern that he was finding difficult to break.
You Already Know He's Cheating
Mike now isn't answering your calls, and you feel in the air about
the relationship, because you aren't sure if he's cheated again.
Let's just imagine that he finally answers your call, and you ask
him if he's cheated. He says no, he hasn't cheated, and makes up
some other excuse for not keeping contact.
Would you believe him? Would you not still have a feeling that
he was lying to you? Could you prove that he was being truthful
with you, when he's been a cheat in the past?
You'll Never Trust Him
What I'm suggesting is that no matter how much you love Mike, you
will always suspect him, because you know what his past has been
like. Whether he has cheated on you or not, you will be reluctant
to let him go out alone, because what if he picks someone up? How
do you know he isn't cheating?
You are 18-years-old. You have your whole life ahead of you, which
your parents have probably told you time and time again. I know
it feels like a lecture every time someone says that, but it's true.
I know you don't want to spend your whole life in a relationship
that you aren't sure of.
Make A Clean Break From Him
Make a clean break from him. If you don't hear from him again,
then it's a good thing. If you do, you need to try and get out of
this relationship, before it takes over your whole life.
Difficult relationships can be very romantic, because you spend
so much time thinking about them, and wishing they were right. The
fact that you say you fought for this relationship, makes me think
that you want him because you've tried so hard. I once wanted to
be with someone, because I had fought for them for so long, and
I didn't want to give up.
Hard Fought, But Not Practical
Eventually, I realised that it was simply the romance of the fight
for the relationship that was keeping it alive at all. In real life,
relationships like this aren't practical, aren't right, and you'll
end up worse off for them.
Good luck,
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