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Dear Confused,
When he talks about marriage and a family, does he imagine that
you will sit around making out all the time while your kids are
rummaging through household chemicals and electrical outlets?
You Don't Know Each Other
You don't say how long you've been dating, but it doesn't seem
very long. You don't even seem to know each other very well.
You don't know what he is after, you don't seem to have the
same interests (other than making out) and are confused about the
long-term prospects.
I would say, take this for what it is, a not-too-serious but fairly
physical relationship. Are you happy with that? Obviously
not. Is he? Seems like it.
Let Him Know What You Want
You might need to get serious and let him know that you are looking
for something more grown-up, where you can interact like adults,
do things like adults, have adult interests, but still have the
physical intimacy.
Do You Plan to Have Sex?
You also don't say whether you want to have sex or not. Do
you? If so, are you playing some kind of game with him? If
not, you need to do something to tone things down a little.
Get Yourself Straight
Get yourself straight and then be honest with him and yourself.
Making out is not the stuff long-term relationships are made
of, but it can be a good start on the path if there is something
more tangible and meaningful there.
– Judith
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