Dear Pepper:

Two Guys? That Would Be the Life

Two guys? She's just sneaky md selfish.

Some people would love to have your problem. Not just one guy crazy about you, but two? That would be the life!

At any rate, did you consider that you might be thinking too hard about this? Have you tried just "feeling"?

Imagine Who'll Be There After 50 Years

Try out a little exercise for me: Close your eyes and imagine yourself in 50 years. You're older; you've earned some wrinkles; maybe you've grown a little heavier. There's a man there with you, one you've been with for 50 years. Whose face do you see, Rob's or Justin's?

I know, that was a little silly. Forgive me.

Someone Else Can't Decide for You

Oh come on! It's obvious. The long term choice is Justin, he's the marrying kind.

The point I'm trying to make is that someone else cannot decide who is right for you for the long term. Only you can decide that, and the decision is NOT made by weighing a man's plusses and minuses on a giant balance sheet. Your heart needs to decide that.

Maybe Neither Is the One

She already knows who is the one.

Now, if you feel that neither guy is "the one" yet, maybe you're not ready to just see only one of them. Or, maybe neither is right for you at all and you can just stop seeing both of them. Life is full of possibilities.

Trust your heart!

– Mo