Dear Panel,
I am 22-year-old female that tends to become very dependent
on others.
Mark is very outgoing and immature and can't
seem to make up his mind.
I started seeing him last year and in the beginning
Mark was really sweet and even thought that I was the one.
Like a lot of guys, he was really into having
sex, and knowing that I was a virgin, he waited for a bit
until we started having intercourse.
Big mistake.
He Only Visits When I'm Alone
He would only come to my place if no one around
my house was home so we could engage in sexual activities.
If they were there, he wouldn't bother, and I would get hurt.
He couldn't commit to me and during the relationship I kept
pressuring him and I tend to have gotten easily jealous and
upset. Since he was so outgoing and spent a lot of time at
the bars and with his friends, constantly talking about other
girls.
He Still Wants Sex After We Break Up
But it is so difficult to let go of him because
I felt I gave up so much for him and since he was my first
for a lot of things. After six months, he broke up with me
for someone else, but it didn't last too long.
He Doesn't Want Me To Pressure Him
It's been a year and we are still friends but
he wants something more, he still wants to have sex with me
even though he doesn't want a relationship, telling me that
he doesn't want to hurt me anymore or he doesn't want all
that pressure I put on him.
I Can't Let Go
I can't have sex with him or anything else because
I know he will drop me if someone else come along leaving
me again devastated.
But I can't seem to let go, we do connect really
well as friends but I feel the only way I can keep him is
if I give into his sexual desires. He tells me that he still
cares about me because I'm sweet and pure, unlike other girls,
and he also gets jealous about other guys. I feel like this
is some control thing, like he still has control over me and
feels he can do or say anything to me and I'II always be here.
But sex seems to be number one to him before anything else
in a relationship. It also seems like he wants to keep me
on the backburner until someone come along and then he won't
need me anymore.
Please tell me what you think and what I should
do???
Female, age 22, Canada
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