Dear Carmela,

This could possibly come from two or more reasons. The two I have in mind are fear, and standards being to high.

Fear

What she's most afraid of is rejection.

Let's talk about the fear first, just because I feel like it. It could be that since you've never had a boyfriend, you're not in the mindset to comprehend what to do when something you want suddenly becomes attainable.

It's been said that we crave most what we cannot have, and that is why rare things are so precious, and easy-to-come-by things are not quite as sought after. Maybe, since you can finally have what you want, you are afraid to take it for fear that what you get isn't going to be as good as what you want.

Your Standards Are Too High

On the other hand, you may just have too-high standards. You like a guy on the surface, but push away someone because a fault they have does not make them "boyfriend material."

Get Some Experience

She shouldn't rush – she's not ready.

Maybe you should find one of those guys that you like and who likes you and just go for it. Go on a date. Hook up. Whatever! At least you'll get some experience to tell you what you should want and what you should expect out of a boyfriend either by what he gives you or doesn't give you.

– Buddy