Dear Doc,

You Need Counseling

Looks to me like you are suffering from the "virtual" seven year itch. And, from the sound of things, you could use some professional counselling to separate your "virtual" world from the "real" world.

Give "Real" People the Same Consideration

I agree – how he can he know this woman well enough, after such a short span of time?

Your logical steps of marriage and parenthood may have been hasty ones and bad judgement calls on your part. But they are decisions you made and must now take responsibility for. They are very "real". And, I gotta say that you are not giving these "real" people in your lives half of the consideration that you are giving to your new "virtual" love.

Your Next Logical Step

Virtual partners are just that – "virtual" – a simulation of what is real, with the bad parts taken out. In cyberspace we can be anyone or anything that we want and our lives are always happy and stress-free. We laugh, we joke, and yes, our cybersex is as great as our imagination and fantasies will allow. But, they are still not real. What will make them reality, is when your cyber gal steps into your real world – which would be your next "logical" step, right?

It's Natural that a Cyber Gal Is More Attractive

You've lived with your wife for seven years and consider her a sister to you. The sex is ho hum, and now she's pregnant and probably not at her most attractive. It's only natural that this woman in cyberspace would be more attractive to you. You only know of your cyber gal what she has been willing to reveal about herself. And, I'm sure there are one or two flaws that haven't been revealed to you yet.

Have You Told Her You're Married?

And speaking of being honest here: How much does she know about you? Have you told her about the wife and soon-to-be child that you have in the next room while you're laughing and being sexually compatible? Or, is that one of your little flaws that hasn't made it's way into the conversation?

Meet Your Cybergal

Meet her?! He should cancel his 'Net access so he won't ever look back.

You seem to have already made up your mind that your cybergal is your "first" priority here. The only way that you an make a rational decision about this matter would be to bring your cyber gal into the real world. Although I don't condone extra-marital affairs, it appears that you've already been having one. It may be a "virtual" affair, but you are making some very important life decisions based on it. So, even if you have to meet her on the sly, do it. Get to know the the "real" person.

Base Your Decision on Fact, Not Fiction

Then, if she's as loving, witty and sexually satisfying in real life as she is in the cyber chatroom, then you can at least make your final decision based on fact, not fiction.

– KP