Dear Amanda,

Treating Yourself Horribly

It sounds to me like getting Chris to talk to you is not the main issue here. The main issue is how horribly you are treating yourself. If you don't want to be having sex, then why are you??

Love Should Be Special and Happy

You think you're in love with a guy who treats you terribly? That sounds wrong. Love should be special and happy, and from the way Chris is treating you, I don't think your love is all that happy. You need to get yourself out of this situation, because it will only bring you down.

You're Not Ready for Sex

Not only is she not ready for it, she's probably being sexually molested .

15 is a really young age to be having sex, and if you don't like it, then that sounds to me like a sure sign that you are not ready for it.

If you're not ready for sex, then you should not be having it!! You are not being true to yourself, and you will never be really happy until you are.

Get Rid of Both

You need to get rid of both Chris and Jesse. They are not good influences. Chris treats you terribly and you are forced to give him sex to keep him happy, that is not the kind of guy who will help you get somewhere in life. You may feel like it's impossible to leave Chris, but hunny, you need to. It's not gonna be easy, I know and I'm sorry that you will have to go through it but you need to find a guy who treats you right.

You need someone who will not make you give him sex to keep him happy, and you need someone who respects and treats you with the care that you deserve.

You need to get rid of Jesse because he sounds like another person who might be dragging you down. If you don't like sex and you don't like Jesse, then why are you sleeping with him? If you are sleeping with a guy you do not like then that is a bad sign and it is a sure sign that he needs to go.

Confide in an Adult

I think you should try talking to someone in your life who you feel you can confide in. Preferably an adult, because this is not going to be an easy time for you.

And if you have not already done so, then make sure you get yourself checked out for pregnancy and STDs.

Never Settle for Less

And she should never settle for someone who is using her.

You should never settle for less than you deserve, and nobody deserves to be treated like you are being treated. So you need to get yourself out of this situation and I promise you that eventually you will meet a guy who respects you and treats you well.

Good luck!

You are a great person and you have the potential to be even better :-)

Love
– Annie