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Dear Stary Eyed,
With all of the people out there, do you want to take the chance
of dating a guy that has been in prison?
It is possible that someone can come out of prison a changed man.
But again, do you want to take that chance?
Knowing the Real Person
I am not a firm believer in these Internet relationships. Anybody
can act however they want over the computer. The only way to get
to know the real person is to spend time with them in person.
Prison Is a Bad Start
My advice is this: Relationships are very difficult. It takes a
lot of effort from both sides to make it work. To start off with
someone that has been in prison is a bad start. It is problems from
the beginning. You could've found me on the Internet and started
having feelings for me. And I may not be such a prize.
Five Years Is Not a Weak Sentence
The chances are a guy that is in prison for 5 years (and that is
not weak sentence) is going to make a good boyfriend or husband
one day is unlikely.
Put it this way: it is either this guy did something pretty serious
to get 5 years and is a first time offender, OR he did something
less serious but has a history of being in trouble with the law.
I was a probation officer, so I am not pulling this out of my ass.
Prisoners Are Bored and Desperate
You are going to have to break his heart, but do end it. For your
sake. A person behind bars is bored and desperate and will most
likely say anything to make you think highly of him. So listen –
just don't drive yourself nuts – move on.
THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA, AND PLENTY OF FREE FISH, TOO!
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
– Jimmy
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