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Dear Confuseds & Angrys,
Horrible Together
You two are horrible together. You don't trust each other from
the beginning regardless of what you've proven, then you can't take
it anymore, then you focus on "getting even" with each
other. What happened to you? Why are you so spiteful?
Too Young
Part of it may be that you started dating at such a young age;
well, young for Equally Confused & Angry. If I do my calculations
right, Equally Confused & Angry was about 18 when you started
dating and Confused & Angry was about 23; that is somewhat of
a recipe for disaster right there. 18 and 23 are (or should be,
at least) very different in terms of self-knowledge, self-respect,
goals, relationship experience, and knowledge of the world around
you.
Those years from 18-23 are years of such rapid change; it would
be very difficult for the two of you to grow and change at the same
pace during the last four years. Has ANYTHING held you together?
Break Up
My advice is to break up. Each of you spend some time being single
and learn to be yourself without the other person. Sorry that it
is so harsh, but I just don't hear any reason in your letters for
you to stay together.
– Judith
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