Dear Alex,

First, let me congratulate you on your recent success in fighting your depression. That is a lot of hard work and you seem to have conquered it. You should feel very proud of yourself for taking such a huge step in your life.

Be with Her

Now, if you really feel strongly about this woman and don't want to let her get away again, then I would move to be with her. Your happiness to yourself is the most important thing in your life.

Regret Will Lead To Depression

But if he realizes that he can't live without her – and it doesn't work out – he'll be even more depressed.

You have already had a history of depression, why put yourself through that again? You are going to be taking a huge chance by quitting your job, selling your home, and most of all, upsetting your family. Life is full of chances. That's what makes it interesting. You already said yourself that you are looking for a career change and looking to go to graduate school, maybe this is your opportunity to do it. Why go through life pondering on the "what if"?

Your Family's Opinions

You stated that you are very much in love with this woman. Unfortunately, your family has formed their opinions about her and they are not good ones.

First, let me tell you that from my experience, your family is not the one who is going to live with her, you are. Your family should not ever tell you who you should or should not be with. That is not their choice, it is yours.

They Shouldn't Be Disrespectful of Her

If they do not approve of her, then they should advise you about her, not tell you that she is not good enough for you or that she is the cause of your depression. If they see that you are happy with her and want to continue to be with her, then they should respect your decision and be respectful of her and bite their tongue when they see her. They dont have to like her, but they also don't have to be disrespectful to her or you. In my personal opinion, I think that you should take her up on her offer.

Talk to Your Mom

If you do decide to go and be with her, please make sure that you have a talk with your family before you go, preferably your mother, they are more understanding then most fathers. Let them know that this will make you very happy and that you don't want to lose them as your family. You just want to pursue your happiness. Hopefully, they will see that this make you happy and support you in your decision.

Your Family Will Be There

But his family won't be there if he cuts himself from his roots.

If things do not work out for the best when and if you decide to go, please remember that you are only 24, you still have a long time to get back on your feet again. Remember this as well, your family will always be there for you no matter what. Even if they say they won't, in the end, they will be.

I wish you the best in your endeavors. I hope that you find the happiness that has been long awaiting you. Good luck.

Best Wishes,
– Sabrina =-)