| Patra
responds:
I agree because
I am having a hard time seeing what the problem is when
you are with him.
What
Makes You Feel Tied Down?
You say you are
feeling tied down. From what? Being able to go out with
friends or spending time with family? Having private time
alone? If any of these things are the problem, it can be
corrected.
There is no reason
you can't have a separate life and still have a boyfriend.
You are not married. There is nothing wrong with going a
day or two without contacting him if that's what you need
to feel comfortable. You are young and have every right
to large amounts of freedom. If you can get it now, perhaps
in the future you will be ready to naturally progress to
more togetherness, without feeling smothered.
Other
Men
Now, if your
problem is that you want to act on an attraction to other
men, that's a different story. The key word here is "ACT".
People don't
stop being attracted to others because they are in a relationship.
But if you find yourself compelled to act, you are not ready
for a committed relationship, and out of love for him, you've
got to leave him alone.
Sow
Those Oats
There are plenty
of other men that would be happy to be involved in a less
confining type of relationship. Trust me, you will not be
lonely. And you wouldn't be hurting someone that you love.
Don't feel guilty, either. I think it is totally OK if you
are responsible sexually. Sow those "wild oats", girl!
The
Double Standard
But if the deal
is that you want your relationship with him and also to
be free to be with anyone else that turns your head, well,
that's what men have been saying for centuries! I know you
don't want to come down on their side! Seriously, if that's
how you feel, you don't really love him or you couldn't
to do that to him. You would only really be loving yourself.
Good Luck!
-- Patra
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