Dear Panel,

I am 19 years old. I have been dating this guy for 8 months. We are totally in love with each other. The problem is with me.

When I stay with him for so long, I get bored and start wanting to be single and be able to run around and have fun again. But a short time after I end the relationship, I am bored with running around and I start to want him back. I can not be 100% happy with him, because I feel too tied down, yet I can not be 100% happy wihtout him because I miss him and think about him constantly.

I have ended the relationship twice becuase I can not decide what it is that I want or need. I love him dearly, and believe that we were meant for each other. But just not yet. I have not had all my fun yet. He waited last time, and we got back together, and he says he will try and wait this time becuase he doesn't want anyone else. But I can't keep this up. It is too hard fro both of us.

He says if we really love each other then we will get back together, but what if I run around too long and it's too late? I can't be happy either way and I can't just forget about him. Please tell me what is wrong with me. I need some good solid advice, please no smart remarks. I just wanna know how to fix my problem of being indecisive. Thanks!

-- petite

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