Charlie said:
"Not many 19 year olds
are interested in a no-touching relationship with a member
of the opposite sex."
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Jeannie Answers:
Many 15-Year Olds Want a "Hands-On" Relationship
Then again, these days, it seems like not a lot of 15 year olds
are interested in a no-touching relationship. However, though she
says she is considering a non-sexual relationship, how honest IS
that? Non-sexual, by definition, is not just no sex. Non-sexual
is platonic, no kissing, no carressing...there are many ways to
define non-sexual relationships.
Local Laws Vary
Can he go to jail for having sex with you? That really depends
on your state laws. Each state differs slightly, but the general
rule is that 17 and under is off limits.
If You Care, You Won't Risk It
However, I will say..if you truly care about this person, why take
the risk? For at least the next two years, you are off limits to
this person, if he wants to be sure that he does nothing against
the law. That being the case, be sure that you have both sat down
and talked about the non-sexual aspect of it, agree that it works
for both of you and be serious about sticking to it.
15-Year Olds Do Better with Older Dates
I believe it's better, at age 15, to be seeing someone who may
be older, but is willing to forsake the physical relationship than
dating someone who is also 15 who isn't. Be careful in your choices...and
think of the consequences, too, not just what feels good at the
moment. This is serious..it could ruin his life if you take it too
far.
-- Jeannie
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