| The
Spark Isn't There I
can see how in some ways your situation must be really confusing. You're dating
a reasonably nice person, but the spark isn't there. So it's time to ask yourself
some questions. What
Are You Looking For?
First
of all, you will need to decide what dating means to you. What is its purpose?
Do you want to find your soulmate? Do you want to gain experience with people?
Do you want to just have fun? I
Avoided Serious Relationships That Weren't Before
I got married, I really enjoyed dating. Yet I wouldn't commit to a relationship
until I was sure there was something there I wanted to explore.
Dating is a great thing
-- you gain a lot of people experience, and can have a lot of fun.
But I think it's best to avoid serious relationships unless they're
just that -- serious.
 I'd
Leave If There Were No Spark
I think if I were in your
situation I would not be interested in continuing to date this guy. I believe
that your relationship could continue to develop -- it sounds as if you get along
well and have a good friendship. But that spark will never be there. And that's
not something you should compromise on.
If you decide to continue
dating this guy, please be careful. I think that sometimes couples
become so comfortable with each other that they get in a circular
pattern, where they stay together just because they've been together
so long. You don't want to find yourself married to a person out
of sheer inertia.
--
Gillian | 
