Dear Boring Barbara,

It seems to me that quite frankly you have the unfortunate combination of both wanting to get back in a relationship (which never works as well as when a relationship "just happens") and perhaps still nervous because of your past relationship.

The Wrong Guys

Yes; she should stop picking men who don't make her happy.

I think that the problems that you are having is in part caused by the guys that you are ending up with; you've had multiple guys "run back to their girlfriends" on you, perhaps its not that they are running from you, but that these are not guys that you should be involved with in the first place, a guy on the rebound is not what you need right now.

Stop Obsessing About Your Problems

Yup, that's my ultimate advice.

As far as feeling fun again I don't really know what to say, I don't think that you are going to start feeling fun again until you start HAVING fun again, stop obsessing (perhaps too strong of a word, but accurate to a degree) about your problems and your relationships (or lack thereof) and just concentrate on yourself, go to a club, dance, meet new people that you have no interest in dating, have fun and then you will feel fun, which may give you the confidence to find better guys.

– Rick