Hi Megan. This actually sounds like my first boyfriend but I was too dumb to realize I wanted out at five months - good for you.

Dump him

First of all, no matter what is causing it, be it his own insecurity, his overwhelming love for you, or some psychosis, this guy is controlling you. He wants to know where you are all the time. He wants to limit your options of who you hang out with. He wants to convince you to stay in a relationship with all these little comments (that I'm sure he has fooled himself into thinking are sweet) about not being able to live without you.

They might be able to work it out if they just communicated better

You need to dump him. Now, here are a few things to keep in mind as you do:

Call His Bluff

Look at his history. Yes, he says he "might die". In reality, he used that same ploy with his previous girlfriend to hook a new one (you). It is manipulative. If you are afraid for his personal safety: tell someone that both of you know, that you trust, and that can handle it, to help him through the breakup. Preferably a teacher or other adult.

You don't need clingy, whiny men

I agree she should dump him. But she DOES have a fear of commitment that she should question

You are not afraid of commitment. You are legitimately learning about boys, figuring out what characteristics you like, don't like, etc. It will help you build much better relationships later on if you have already gotten past the need to test out clingy whiny men and instead can meet and date interesting and self-actualized men. That is what teenagers (and even people in their early 20's) should do until they learn more about themselves and what they like. True, you can learn a lot from one person, and sometimes it takes longer to realize that it isn't the person for the rest of your life, but 5 months was just plenty for this guy.

Learn To Be Independent

You have a right to be independent - that is what being a teenager is about! You are learning some independence from your parents, from the friends you've had for a long time, and there is no reason to DEVELOP dependence on a new person.

Move On

You showed a lot of intelligence by realizing this is a bad and potentially dangerous situation. That shows that you will have many more healthy and fun relationships in the future.

You're Not Responsible, But You CAN Help

There is one other little thing to keep in mind when she dumps him: He is a FRIEND. Here is how to say "goodbye".

Now, DUMP him. Ask for help if you think he is in danger of hurting himself. Remember, you are NOT responsible for his actions - but that doesn't mean you can't help him out.