| Dear Confused, In
these days of high percentage divorce rates, you have just made yourself a statistic.
After 13 years of marriage
you and your husband should have grown together, instead you've drifted apart.
You could have sought
marriage counseling and you even had your choice of thousands of self-help books
giving
you advice on how to improve your marriage. You chose an affair.
I
Bet Your Husband Is Also Having An Affair I
always say that if a husband and wife are not having sex with each other then
theyėre having it with someone else. This makes me question whether or not your
husband is doing the exact same thing behind your back. You
said your husband is lacking in the financial department. Answer this: How does
having an affair bring more income into the home? If
your husband isn't helping you financially then talk to him about it. I
know you may think the affair you're having with this married man is an amazing
relationship, but its not. It's an escape and a temporary way to fill the void
for what you're not getting at home. I think you need to sit down with your husband
and ask each other some serious questions about your marriage and what you want
from each other and for your kids if you have any. Be honest and tell him you're
cheating, not in two months, or in two days, do it today! You may think he'll
go crazy, but from the type of relationship you said you have, you never know
if he may be cheating on you too.  Stop
being selfish
Having
an affair with a married man doesn't solve the issue either. If you have kids
you should stop being selfish and think about them. If the married man has kids,
you should think about the damage it will do to them and their mother. Let's hope
your husband/family is willing to forgive you. Sincerely,
Mar
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