Dear Reader,

Have you ever wondered about the questions that we don't have time to answer on Love & Learn?

Well, Lefty wondered. Here is the 4th batch of questions that we sent him.

Take his answers with a grain of salt.

Dear Panel, My boyfriend spends hours on the net working on his homepage. He left me alone on July 4th just to be on the net for 4 hours after he promised he'd take me out. I feel like I'm competing against a computer. Should I feel jealous, or just shake it off?(we both live together and I'm 17 he's 20)

Lefty Answers: You should just shake it off. Then move out and find another boyfriend. P.S. Please have your boyfriend contact Mr. Sensitive. Mr. Sensitive is having a heckuva time trying to make us work on weekends and holdidays for no pay.

Dear Panel, My boyfriend of 6 months gets frustrated when I can't express my feelings with him, he thinks i may have something to hide. why do i find it so hard at times to express myself to him,..when he ,himself is very expressive?

Lefty Answers: Try email. It seems to be working for us.

Dear Panel, I am ..mad for this woman called Gail. Gail is the woman i like, but she already has a man. Her man's name is ian, i dont really know him. Once upon a time...it was ian's birthday and we all went to his house for a party. I had liked gail since i first met her. She was at the party, i thought okay, step back that's ians woman. but gail was ignoring ian and was chatting with me all night. I know gail's cousin and he told me she always ignores ian and shes only with him because he has a car. is it right for me to tell her how i feel? should i tell her?

Lefty Answers: Depends. Do you have a car?

Dear Panel, I am .. a girl. My guy friend called my crush and asked him if he liked me at all. my crush said "that's just between me and her." he wouldn't tell my friend anything. Then he called my crush again and told him to call me so I could discuss what is between us and tell him how I feel about him. How do I tell him the way I feel abot him?

Lefty Answers: This email worked for me. Or you could talk to him.

Dear Panel, I am .. the kind of person that believes thing will be better the next time around(if there is one). "derrick" is a very go with what ever happens and enjoy it kind of guy. Hes also the bad boy type. Once upon a time...Derrick asked me out. I hesitated for a few months cause i had no feelings for him. Then i said yes. I over heard girls saying oh derrick is so cute i'm goin to make him ask me out......... so i got jealous and broke up with him. Then the next week he had another girl, I got jealous and asked him out he said yes. i broke up with him again for no reason. Now he wants me to meet him at his aunts house so we could make out, I told him first i have to go out with him again and he never answered me.... what should i do??????????? is it write for me to go out with him a third time????????

Lefty Answers: You can go out with him again, but next time make up a good reason to break up.

Dear Panel, I am .. divorced for over 20 years in my late late 40's, and looking to share my life with someone. I have not been in a relationship since. D is 4 years younger than me, recently divorced and looking also. He works all over the US, travels a lot. Once upon a time...I met D in chat, we exchanged pictures. He was involved with someone else at the time, but eventually broke up. We then started talking more, online and by phone. He's told me he loves me many times. We have never met in person. He travelled to the state where I live and wanted to meet me. He asked that I wear the purple dress I was wearing in the picture. I don't own a purple dress. Turns out I had sent him a picture of my niece without realizing it. When I told him, he said he didn't care. I sent him my picture and his calls got further and further apart. I finally called him telling him I would leave him alone. He called and said his feelings had not changed, he still loved me and still wanted to build a life together. We cried and made promises to each other. My problem is that although I know he's busy with his work, the more time goes by that I don't hear from him, I think he's given up. I want to trust him and believe in him, but what can I do to reassure myself that he means what he's said and confirm my feelings. Plans for meeting him keep getting postponed on his part, his job. Should I give him time? Space? Or move on?

Lefty Answers: Give him as much time and space as he needs. By moving on. You may want to meet the next one in person before you fall in love.

Dear Panel, Ive known this guy for a very long time well i havent talked to him in a while and a few days ago we started chatting and he suddenly wants to please me. Does he just want to get some or could he really be interested?

Lefty Answers: Or both.

Dear Panel, I like my friends older brother and i think he likes me because weve kissed and held hand and he flirts with me all the time but the problem is that he 4 yrs older than me and my friend doesn't like the idea of me seeing her brother.....

Lefty Answers: If you are over 30 years old, I'd say go for it.

Dear Panel, I am presently involved with a man who is 21 years my senior. I truly love him and he says he loves me. Can this work? I am 27 years old.

Lefty Answers: Ask Michael Douglas.

Dear Panel, Hello, I want to ask a question on female human nature. I have never had to ask a woman out, because they have always asked me out. I want to know what would make a woman ask a man out? Because, sometimes it becomes a problem, with sertain women I think are not my type, and/or I just don't want to date. But this is also a search for knowlege.

Lefty Answers: Sorry, you'll have to ask someone who can empathize with your situation.

Dear Panel, Does it hurt the first time you have sex?

Lefty Answers: Depends. Are you male or female?

Dear Panel, when this girl who i would like to be my girlfriend says "i don't know" when it comes to matters of the heart what does that mean and what should i do?

Lefty Answers: What does she say when you ask her on a date?

Dear Panel, my grill dosen't whant to have sex but she undrees and tuch me at my dick and and stuf that look like sex. What shuld i tell her?

Lefty Answers: Tell her, "thank you".

Dear Panel, Is licking whipped cream off a stripper's breast at a bachelor party considered cheating if the man is married?

Lefty Answers: Depends. What was the stripper doing at the time?

Dear Panel, I'm 20 and am good friends with a 16 year old but I have falling for her. Should we turn this friendship into more or what?

Lefty Answers: Depends. How do you feel about jail?

Dear Panel, My guy says he loves me but he can't tell me why does he really love me?

Lefty Answers: I've heard it's in the kiss. Seems unlikely that it's in the verbal communication process in this case.

Dear Panel, I want to make love with my partner. How can i handle this the best?

Lefty Answers: Spend more time with your partner and less time on the computer.

Dear Panel, Me and my boyfriend together for six month now. My family and friends don't like him. sometimes I want to just run away from this relationsheep. i just can't do it. I hate t cause him this pain. so i'm trying to make him break up with me. Iknow that he isn't the one but still can't let go of him.

Lefty Answers: Write a 300 word essay on why his pain is worse than your pain. Then smack yourself with the essay until your pain is worse. Then dump him.

Dear Panel, I met this girl at my freshman college orientation. She came up to me and we talked for awhile. I enjoyed talking to her and it seemed she felt the same too. How do I know if she is just being friendly or if she really is interested in me?

Lefty Answers: Ask her to eat with you in the dorm cafeteria. If she does, it won't be because of the food.

Dear Panel, How do you keep your son/daughter out of your ex-husband's new girlfriend's life?

Lefty Answers: You don't.

Dear Panel, My partner finds it hard to sleep when I stay overnight at his house. What can I do to help him sleep better?

Lefty Answers: You tell him that that comes with the package.

Dear Panel, I have met two men online. One is very, very sexy, but mysterious. The only way I can contact him is through e-mail. We don't see each other very often, he is in the medical field and is on-call quite a lot. The other is also very sexy. I can contact him any time I need to via Internet, phone or visit him at work. I am drawn to both of them, but I am very unsure of which way to go. Help!

Lefty Answers: Depends. Do you like imaginary relationships or real ones?

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