| Do you love her? Do
you tell her? Do you make
her feel special when you're together? When she's exhausted from
running around with your two kids, do you take care of the kids and make dinner?
Do you take her out to dinner or away on a weekend WITHOUT expecting sex in return?
Do you kiss her and tell her she's beautiful? Have you asked her what would get
HER feeling in the mood for sex?
Have
You Given Unselfishly If
you answered yes to all of these questions - in other words, if you've really,
honestly, with all of you heart, given unselfishly to her -- you've done everything
you can. If you answered no, you may want to try it. (It's about repairing the
relationship, not getting the sex, by the way.)
Final thought: You end
the letter by saying the relationship is poor and there is lots
of fighting. Is sex the real issue here? I know you tried it before,
but couples counseling might help you identify where the problems
lie.
-- Mare
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