Dear Girl in Love,

You sound so sad. I'm sorry that things are so confusing for you. And I'm sorry that the advice I'm going to give you is probably not what you want to hear.

Even if his intentions were good, it is bad news. Let me tell you what happened to my cousin.

This guy is not a good person. He is taking advantage of your youth and innocence. I know that you are feeling very confused right now, and that you think you will miss him a lot if you break things off. You probably will miss him.

But after you have a little time and distance from the relationship, you will see why it was wise to end things with him. I know you care about him, but you also know that he is not a trustworthy person. He is breaking the commitment he made to his wife and children. He is having a sexual relationship with someone young enough to be his daughter. You are forced to keep the relationship hidden, because he knows he would suffer repercussions if word were to get out. All of these things are so unhealthy and you shouldn't have to deal with them.

She shouldn't listen to her head or her heart. She should listen to her pain — love shouldn't hurt this much.

Please listen to your head on this one. I know that your heart is telling you something else, but this guy is not to be trusted. Gillian