If you really love someone, it does not mean that you will no longer have temptations. What it does mean is that you will say NO to those temptations, because love is a choice to keep yourself for that other person. Love is not a feeling, it's a conscious commitment to sacrifice your desires and temptations for the good of the other person.

If you even carry this thought one step further, you are making the biggest mistake of your life. Secret thoughts that may seem harmless and private can be very dangerous because they usually lead you closer to action. And infidelity will haunt you the rest of your life. It is never ever worth the momentary thrill you may experience. The pain of a ruined marriage and broken family, and the devastation you will cause your children, is unthinkable.

Ask God for help

Realize that this temptation can be overcome through God's help.

God has no role in this ordeal.

In the Bible it states that His strength is made perfect in our weakness. If you are having trouble overcoming your feelings or temptation for this other person, ask God to help you. Invite Him into your heart and life and let Him replace your desires with the right kind of desires -- for your husband. You also need to completely avoid this person and any situations in which you will experience this temptation.

One last thought -- it is very clear that your focus is distorted. Instead of looking for someone else, you need to get your focus back on your marriage and learn to appreciate what you have. Remember: the grass is always greener where you water it. Pour your energies and thoughts into your loving your husband and watch that relationship flourish!