Yes, I think that's normal, because let's face it - it can be scary!

The most important thing you need to never forget is that IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING!!!  Just because everyone is doing something, does not make it right. Once you give up your virginity, it's lost forever, and you will one day be sorry!  It may not seem like it now, but trust me,

Or it's simply her instict.

you will regret it. So, I think your fears are just a healthy sign that your conscience is working, and that you realize this is not something you should be getting involved with at this point in your life.

There is a very good reason that God told us not to have sex before marriage.

I agree 13 is young -- but marriage could be a looooong time away.

And it doesn't matter if you agree with God or not -- or for that matter, if anyone agrees with him. It's still true. You are playing with fire, and you will get burned. Whether by disease, by a painful loss of self respect,

I don't think you have the right to cast judgement on what people want to do.

a bad reputation, or the intense pain of a ruined relationship -- whatever the form, it will come back to bite you.

So, have the courage to do what you know is right. Respect yourself and your body!  If you feel that you want to date, wait until you are ready and mature enough to do it safely and to stand firm with your standards of what you are looking for and how you will be treated. And most importantly, wait until you get married to give yourself to your husband.

If people criticize you for it, just remember that whatever you do, people will find something to criticize, but that you still owe it to yourself and to God to do what's right. It is not popular these days to do something different, but the very fact that you asked the question means that you see that others are doing something you're not comfortable with. Don't be afraid to be different or to take a stand on this!