Will I lose my boyfriend to college?

Dear Panel,

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. We are really serious. This is my first really serious relationship, and it is like nothing i have ever felt before. This comming year, however, he is going to collage, and I will still be in high school. We are less than a year apart in age, but 2 years in school. I am afraid that we will be living totally different lives, which will cause us to grow apart. I dont want to loose him, but I am afraid that this difference will cause us to break up. Is there any way I can help prevent this from happening. afraid of heartbreak

Alicia Answers:

Dear Afraid of Heartache

Yes - hold on loosely like a nervous cat.

People grow up and people change. The only way you can stay with you boyfriend is if you give him that room to grow and change.

I disagree,I'm in the same situation and it's going to work out.

Unfortunately, of all the friends I've had in high school through college, the only one that didn't break up with her boyfriend was my sister, and it's probably because they both went to college the same year and in the same city.

I disagree, if she truly love each other they should give it a try.

You just have to enjoy the relationship you have and be strong enough to see that a breakup might be inevitable, and if anything, beneficial to your growth and maturity.

The good news is, once you catch up and go to college, too, you won't want a relationship to tie you down. And you'll probably end up being really good friends with him because you'll have this shared experience under your belt.

-Alicia

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