Mare said:

If your soulmate is secure about herself... she won't mind if your eyes are wandering

I disagree because every woman can be made to feel insecure, especially if the man she loves is lusting after other women, whats your problem telling him to entertain these thoughts. Most women are sensitve and my man lusting after another woman makes me feel like crap, no good can come of it! How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot, men have the most fragile ego's of all. I say he needs to appreciate what he has before he looses it and the women at the gum oviously don't seem to be interested in him or it wouldn't be lust, it would be called an affair.  sks